These pressures affect people in different ways and most young people begin to realise it’s important to be themselves rather than let the pressure get to them.

However pressure relating to sexual activity can be strong. Young people often believe (falsely) that everyone is having loads of sex, with lots of different people, all the time and so feel the need to try this themselves.

The reality is often far from this. Remember that whilst a third of young people are sexually active under 16 two thirds are not!

Unfortunately some people will try to pressure other people if they think it will work. Often this happens when one person is older, and tries to influence or manipulate, the younger person into a relationship in order to exploit their inexperience. This can be known as grooming, and can happen when you know someone in real life, or have made contact online.

It is important to consider the age gap between you and your partner when entering a relationship. The bigger the gap the more you should think about whether it is good thing for you to be involved. In can be really flattering for someone older to pay attention to you particularly if they drive or have their own place but ask yourself why they don’t date people their own age? Also remember it is illegal for anyone who works with young people to enter into relationships with them as it is considered an abuse of trust.

Life Pressure

As a young person it can often feel that there is too much pressure for you to deal with. Exams, starting work or college for the first time, keeping friendships going and family life can all contribute to pressure or stress. There are some simple things you can do to help.

Exercise will keep you fit but also help you deal with frustrations in a positive way. Being physically fit means you are generally better able to cope with life’s stresses!

Talking to friends can help you let off steam and often you will find they are feeling the same way as you, particularly around your options or exam times.

Finding time to relax by listening to your favourite music, gaming or simply getting a good night’s sleep all can help you get a bit more perspective on things.

Although you may not always feel like it, talking to your parents or care givers can stop you feeling anxious about the stresses you are facing.  If you feel unable to do this Choices services, school counsellors, CAMHS, your Doctor or another adult you trust and respect all can help if you are struggling.

Further Links

Choices Services

Young Minds - http://www.youngminds.org.uk/youngpeople/index.php

ChildLine - 0800 1111 or http://www.childline.org.uk/

Samaritans - http://www.samaritans.org/ or 08457 90 90 90

For looked after children in North East Lincs - http://www.nellyforme.com/

Relationship Pressures

This is a time in your life when, quite rightly, you will be curious about sex and wanting to experience sexual activities.  This is perfectly understandable. However, just because you are thinking about it doesn’t mean you have to try things right away! The older you are the more likely it is you will have a better experience and will have planned how to stay safe!

In a relationship it can be difficult if your partner feels they are ready for sex and you are not but you should be aware that no one who loves or cares about you would ever force you to do something you didn’t want to do, no matter how they say it.